Break Up
There’s no doubt in regards to it—breakups suck. But in the initial few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, in particular that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s called a breakup because it’s broken, and starting right here, right now, it’s time to arid your tears, put down that pint of ice cream, log out of his e-mail, and open this book to Chapter One–and get started turning your breakup into a breakover.
From Greg Behrendt, the co-author of the smash two-million copy bestseller He’s Just Not That Into You, comes It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken–the extreme survival guide to getting over Mr. Wrong and reclaiming your inner Superfox. From how to put yourself through “he-tox,” to how to throw yourself a kick-ass pity party, Greg and his wife, Amiira, share their hilarious and helpful roadmap for getting past the heartache and back into the game. You will learn:
• Why you shouldn’t call him—and what he’s thinking when you do
• How to keep your friends and not lose your job
• How to stay clear from breakup pitfalls: IMing, stalking, having sex with your ex
• Reframing reality—seeing the kinship for what it was
• How to transform yourself into a hot, happening Superfox and get a jump on the better, more splendid future that awaits
Complete with an necessary workbook to support you put the crazy down on paper and not take it out into the world, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken is a must-have manual for finding your way back to an even more rocking you.
From Publishers WeeklyIf He’s Just Not That into You told a woman how to spot a man who’s not genuinely fascinated in a kinship with her—and how to deal with it proactively—this follow-up is for those, male and female, who’ve been blindsided by a breakup after thinking Everything Is Fine. Speaking less this time from a guy’s perspective and more as an individual who has been dumped and survived, Behrendt tackles the often times inevitable sensations or changes of a broken attachment: the obsessive thinking (and calling and e-mailing), the crying, the debilitating depression (and it is effects on one’s occupation performance), the crazy acting-out, the feed and spending issues, the friend burnout. This time, Behrendt is aided by his wife, who offers her own breakup stories, with the two together serving as a uninterrupted reminder that one may love again. The book is padded with not-so-funny vignettes, and anecdotal letters from readers are answered in a rather wearying Dear Abby style. There’s little new or insightful, but Behrendt’s frankness—never too harsh—is as winning as ever, and the title is catchy. Everything is more or less in place for this burgeoning franchise.
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From BooklistBehrendt, coauthor of the wildly standard dating guide He’s Just Not That into You (2004), teams up with his wife to offer a how-to guide for coping when a kinship goes south. Both Greg and his wife, Amiira, went through exceedingly traumatic, drawn-out breakups before finding pleasure with each other, and they portion the stories of what they did wrong (and what they in the end did right) as they go through the fundamental principle of how to survive a breakup: stop calling him or waiting for him to call, don’t sit at home moping, keep out of the way of wearing sweats (unless exercising), and find a friend to support you through it. They likewise include letters seeking counsel and Greg’s responses to them, breakup horror stories, and “psycho confessionals,” real tales of women who went too far in reacting to a breakup. The writers take a lighthearted and positive tone all around their boisterous guide; suppose demand from the numerous readers who made He’s Just Not That into You a hit. Kristine Huntley
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“You will get through this, and you’ll do it rapidly and without delay with the help of It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken.” —Glamour
“Insightful, been-there-have-the-scars-to-prove-it wisdom.” —New York Post
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68 of 69 humans found the following review helpful.
 A breakup bible!
By Mom of Sons
I in truth wish this book had been around when I was in my 20s and making all the errors Behrendt outlines in gory and humorous detail here! Such as: Don’t EVER phone your ex, specially not when you are at your worst, i.e., sloppy drunk and desperate at 2 a.m. Advice in the book, which runs along the lines of “Hey, this is such a sucky relationship, so why are you hanging on to it so tightly?” is clear, logical and empowering!
30 of 31 persons found the following review helpful.
This book must be required reading for any woman who has had her heart broken!
By Dirty Geeky Sexy
I was dumped by my boyfriend of a year. We had talked marriage and I was exclusively convinced that he was “the one”. I didn’t see see the breakup coming and I had no idea how to handle it. After closely 48 hours of non-stop crying, I managed to pull myself off of the couch and get to the bookstore. I wasn’t looking for anything in particular, but I was drawn to this book because of the title.
Through my tears, I managed to read this book in just a few days – highlighting and writing in the boundary line as I went along. Then I reread it. And even now, I still carry the book with me. (My breakup was only a month ago.) When I’m having a bad day, I pull out the book and read marked passages. I swear – I don’t know if I would be functioning if it had not been for this book.
It’s full of the stuff you need to listen (even if you are not ready to listen just yet). The book will make you laugh and cry, but largely it will make you think.
If you’ve had your heart broken, please read this book. It will aid you more than you ever think it will.
65 of 75 persons found the following review helpful.
 He’s Just Not That Into You, Part Deux
By S. Dominy
I think Greg has great purposes with his book, but it’s so similar to his introductory book, same set-up and style. Don’t get me wrong, I think he does a outstanding service esp for us women because we’re too understanding, too nice, or whatsoever the case may be. I thought his introductory book was a God-send, but this one was kind of more of the same stuff. I don’t discount his advice, but there’s something missing; there’s no positive focus on when it might be right to work it out or why it’s primary and healthful to want to talk things out. A person is not weak for wanting to grasp “what happened.” It’s when someone goes overboard and won’t let go, and I realize that is in all probability the aroused starting point for this book.
I realize, from my own recent experience, that a good deal of people (not just men) may be present for the duration of the course of a breakup and there are those who plainly check out and run away. Greg seems to focus on just that one type of person. And so I think his counsel is on target when it comes to the with regard to emotions spineless person who runs from a breakup; the kind who sends all kinds of mixed signals and then blindsides the person who is in love with them. It happened to me, and I perceive the pain of that kind of breakup. I tried to talk to my boyfriend and he wouldn’t see me or talk to me. It was the shock of my life; I never saw it coming, truly. If I have anything to pass on, it is primary to hold yourself in as much dignity as possible; but don’t beat yourself up if you email him or call; you’re humane and you are injure and it is natural and healthful to want to comprehend what happened, esp if you never saw it coming.
Again, I’m not discounting the counsel Greg gives here; I just found it to be more of the same stuff from his primary book.
But the best counsel is to do not forget that you are a superfox and don’t waste the pretty. For those of you hurting, you are not alone; it sucks; you will get over it, it just takes time and that’s the hard part, and I know you want to recognise so seriously what he (or she) is thinking. And when that person refuses to be present or with regard to emotions available that’s a whole other level of rejection to deal with.
This too shall pass, and there is someone out there who will see you for the amazing person you are. Greg is right on that one. Focus your energy on that reality, and tardily you’ll forget the nightmare you just went through. The more you may focus on attracting the love you deserve, and giving your attention to that, the more you will see your break up was probably a blessing. Time moves tardily for the brokenhearted … I know.
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